#1. Go to bed at the same time.

Remember the beginning of your relationship,
when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. 
They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner
wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

#2. Cultivate common interests.

After the passion settles down, it’s common to
realize that you have few interests in common.
But don’t minimize the importance of activities
you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you
more interesting to your mate and prevent you
from appearing too dependent.

#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging
behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably
hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s
more important to be with their partner than to
see the sights along the way.

#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default  mode.

If and when they have a disagreement or
argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy
couples default to trusting and forgiving rather
than distrusting and begrudging.

#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.

If you look for things your partner does wrong,
you can always find something. If you look for
what he or she does right, you can always find
something, too. It all depends on what you want
to look for. Happy couples accentuate the
positive.
#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved),
“bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected).
Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin
bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate
your spirit against anonymity in the world.

#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.

This is a great way to buy some patience and
tolerance as each partner sets out each day to
battle traffic jams, long lines and other
annoyances.

#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.

This tells your partner that, regardless of how
upset you are with him or her, you still want to
be in the relationship. It says that what you and
your partner have is bigger than any single
upsetting incident.

#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
 Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to
adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync
when you connect after work. For instance, if
your partner is having an awful day, it might be
unreasonable to expect him or her to be
enthusiastic about something good that happened
to you.

#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together
and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or
back of neck. They are not showing off but rather
just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than
unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete
behavior that you do automatically and that
takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21
days of daily repetition of a new a behavior
to become a habit. So select one of the
behaviors in the list above to do for 21
days and voila, it will become a habit…and
make you happier as a couple. And if you
fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just
apologize to your partner, ask their
forgiveness and recommit yourself to
getting back in the habit.
If there was one key to happiness in love
and life and possibly even success it would
be to go into each conversation you have
with this commandment to yourself frontvand foremost in your mind, “Just Listen”
and be more interested than interesting,
more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable.